January 20, 2006

Yes, this post will be about a song by Alanis Morissette. I mention it first, so that we can get past any prejudice you have against the girl’s music.

OK, now that we’re done with that. Here it is. It’s all about this song called “Perfect” (here’s the link to download the song).

This is such an amazing song. It’s about how certain parents are towards their kids. But that’s not what I’ve been liking about it. I’ve been thinking that the song’s lyrics show a lot of what I’ve felt the Gospel has been to me. Here are the lyrics. If you already downloaded the song, you can even sing it out loud.


Sometimes is never quite enough
If you’re flawless, then you’ll win my love
Don’t forget to win first place
Don’t forget to keep that smile on your face

Be a good boy
Try a little harder
You’ve got to measure up
And make me prouder

How long before you screw it up
How many times do I have to tell you to hurry up
With everything I do for you
The least you can do is keep quiet

Be a good girl
You’ve gotta try a little harder
That simply wasn’t good enough
To make us proud

I’ll live through you
I’ll make you what I never was
If you’re the best, then maybe so am I
Compared to him compared to her
I’m doing this for your own damn good
You’ll make up for what I blew
What’s the problem…why are you crying

Be a good boy
Push a little farther now
That wasn’t fast enough
To make us happy
We’ll love you just the way you are
If you’re perfect

“We’ll love you just the way you are… if you’re perfect.”

God loves you. But beware, you don’t wanna “fall off.” I remember a great thread on TheOoze that I enjoyed a lot with Seraphim. We were chatting about how crazy the Gospel is presented sometimes: a crazy image of God where he says “I’ve adopted you…. oh, now you sinned, you’re not my son any more… Oh, great you repented, I love you… what? You sinned? Not anymore… yes… no… yes… no…” Crazy.
I’ve been guilty of letting this type of behaviour permeate my life for too long. Hopefully I’ll move past “behaviour focus” and someday I’ll learn to love God with good intentions and happy heart. I have to get past behaviour-centric christianity if I ever want to reach a good state in life.

So now. I play that song and think how bad it sounds. Love that only focuses on behaviour and achievements. Sounds weird huh? Well, we gotta learn to get past that. God (the way I think He is), is not like the parents in this song.


11 Responses to “Perfect”

  1. Being_Me Says:

    Great post. I loved the song, thanks. Alanis expresses it so well doesn’t she? I’m so glad God isn’t like that. Conditional “love” is a sick thing. I think to often the church has presented a god to the world that they have created in their own image.

    Okay now why wouldn’t I like Alanis Morissette? 🙂 I look for treasure in all kinds of places.

    I see you holding your grudges.
    I see you gunning them down.
    I see you silencing your sisters,
    And I love you still.

  2. dionpugil Says:

    I like Alanis a lot too. I was just being over cautious. You never know when someone won’t like someone.

    But yeah. She’s a great composer to me. Many songs have such great lyrics.

  3. kingsjoy Says:

    Beautiful song–made me cry. Strikes a chord for me both as a parent and as a child of God.

    I respect Alanis for being honest in her lyrics. Now I’m inspired to download some more tunes.


  4. dionpugil Says:

    Makes me cry too.

  5. mdwinn Says:

    “Hopefully I’ll move past “behaviour focus? and someday I’ll learn to love God with good intentions and happy heart.”
    well said gaston i am trackin with ya!

    BTW, happy birthday belated!

  6. GoteeMan Says:

    Wow, dude – great post. Also made me think, as a parent, about the times when I expect too much from my kids in the way of behavior. It’s so much more important for them to know they are loved and accepted than to act a certain way.

    Thank God He is not like that, and that He truly loves and accepts us. Wow, what great love.


  7. darla Says:

    this is surely my story…. it brought me back to my young years. thankfully God loves to give second chances…. my dad is quite the GRAND”father” to my girls that he never was to me. i love to watch him with my girls. talk about bringing a tear to your eye. it is God’s grace every time they’re with him. and isn’t it funny that an artist who is not labeled “christian” can have the TRUTH right there in her song? david and i just talked about this the other day. if truth is there, it’s there…. whether you’re “christian” or not. i love it. thanks for the link

  8. dionpugil Says:

    And that’s one of the biggest “truths” there is. The fact that where TRUTH IS IT IS. And that’s why I insist that if I have a truly receptive and sensitive heart, I can see truth in other religions. And I mean, I know I can’t see Jesus, but I can see truthful ways in other religions.

    Artists, many of them being sensible people, have a way at looking at these type of things that happen in life. Alanis does it all the time. She looks at life and then just gets really realistic about things. Good stuff comes from that process.

    Thanks for sharing.

  9. I connected to your post of this song a lot. This view of God steals my intimacy with him. This Post is my more official thank you for your posting.

  10. gaston Says:

    Man, what an honor.

  11. GoteeMan Says:

    I really related to that. So many of us grew up with dads who put us on a performance basis and screwed up our image of our “heavenly Father”.

    Thank God He has made it His mission to “un-do” that thinking and learning.


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